How do I stop talking about my fears so much?
As with any problem, the first step is to understand the root cause. To do that, observe what’s going on with you with these questions to help you: who do you tend to talk to about your fears, what particular fears do you mention, and when do you tend to experience/talk about the fears the most, what do you feel before and after talking about them. As you observe your patterns, you’ll gradually start understanding what you need.
So, for example, are you looking for reassurance that you’re safe? Perhaps you’re simply trying to connect to feel loved and supported. Or are you looking for validation that you’re in control of your fears? Or maybe you’re looking for guidance on how to transform your fears into success (in cases of injustice, for instance). Once you understand what need or desire is behind your fear, you can then problem-solve how to meet that need. In other words, define the right guidance and habits that will enable you to build your inner validation.