Can you suggest some tips that can help me with my marriage problems.
Tip One:
Recognize that marital duress typically takes missteps from both partners. If you want to overcome the problems in the marital relationship, both parties will need to recognize their role in the distress. Blaming the partner for the current troubles only deepens the pain and severity of the brokenness.
Tip Two:
Seek solutions to problems that are built on compromise and allow for an equal sharing of the sacrifices needed to right the ship. Solutions that highly favor one partner over the other create alienation and emotional distance.
Differences. No marriage is one where there are no conflicts and differences. Differences can be in religion, sex, moral values, type of neighbors and the list can go on forever. The best way to settle this is to talk about the differences both tolerable and intolerable. Understand that you both are different and will have different perspectives over things in life. Talk it over and come to a consensus to make sure these differences do not come in the way ever.
Its better to have a good open and honest talk with your partner before any problems arise. When you are both relaxed you can ask open ended questions about how you see yourselves in a few years time for example. This gives you a chance to openly discuss your future goals and aspirations
Also I think that Communication in marriage is not just something that you do when theres a problem, it needs to be a regular thing. Its always best to stay calm and try not to start off by saying 'you always do this etc or launch into a barrage of complaints that you have. Take one thing at a time and give your partner chance to speak
Understand your spouse’s love language and seek to love them in the way they feel most loved. Be intentional about this - don’t think that your marrige will flourish without any work! You must actively work and be thoughtful about ways to encourage, love, and care for your spouse. Do this even if you don’t “feel” like it.