Having a baby in a troubled marriage is a wrong decision?
Yes, it definitely is. It could make your marriage take a further turn for the worse, and have an effect on the child as well. Your spouse could either grow to resent you and the child, or show the child affection which could end up making you resent the baby.
Some people believe that having a child can close the gap between the troubled couple. I know of one or two couples that it has worked for, so maybe it’s worth a try. However, if this partner has become abuse, I wouldn’t suggest bring a child into that kind of environment.
In my experience I have actually seen this help a marriage. A friend of mine was going through a difficult time with his wife and then they found out she was pregnant with twins and he says that changed everything. He says things just fell into place after that. Some of the joy of marriage came back, he says.
Having a baby is very stressful. You are tired and usually feel overwhelmed. The baby cries, the mother is emotional because her hormones are playing havoc with her emotions, and the sense of resposibility can be frighteneing. You will have even less time for each other or to work on problems. So your issues may be put aside for a while, but they won´t go away. And now the poor baby will probably be in the middle of a break up at some tiime.