How do I talk to my partner about something that bothers me without sounding like I’m attacking them? Every time I try, it blows up.
I still mess this up a lot, but I’ve noticed it goes way worse when I bring things up after I’ve been stewing all day. I think I’m calm, but I’m really not. Waiting a bit helps, even though it’s hard to sit with it.
I had to admit to myself that I was being kind of attacking without meaning to. I thought I was “just being honest,” but my tone said otherwise.