How do you know that he is not a player?
We can never completely know everything about someone, and even a hardcore player can commit and change, which I have also seen many times. The question isn’t so much about his past behavior but about how he relates to you today. The best approach is to look for the clues. So, is he genuinely interested in your life and your passions? Would he spend an afternoon with your parents/caregivers looking through your baby photos? Most importantly, does he remember your likes and dislikes? Players can sometimes be very crafty in sounding interested but they usually forget everything shortly afterwards. In short, look for an in-depth connection rather than a flighty one.
We can never completely know everything about someone, and even a hardcore player can commit and change, which I have also seen many times. The question isn’t so much about his past behavior but about how he relates to you today. The best approach is to look for the clues. So, is he genuinely interested in your life and your passions?
Hi. I’d add that time is honestly your best friend here. Anyone can be charming for a few weeks, but consistency is hard to fake over months. Does he show up when he says he will? Do his words and actions match?
A few other things worth noticing:
Does he introduce you to his friends or family, or does the relationship stay kind of hidden? Is he open about his phone and plans, or do things get vague and secretive? And how does he talk about his exes? If every past relationship ended because of the other person, that can say a lot.
It also helps to just ask what he’s looking for. Someone who wants something serious usually doesn’t mind talking about it. If he dodges the question every time, that’s an answer too.
Trust your gut as well. If something feels off, it’s okay to slow things down until you feel more sure.
What made you start wondering about this? If there’s something specific he’s doing, feel free to share and we can give more targeted thoughts