How often should my spouse and I talk during the day?
In this logical and fast-paced world that we’ve created, most of us now crave life’s rule book with a list of perfect answers. Life doesn’t work that way. It’s grey and messy, and there are no answers. Instead, we all have to keep tweaking the balance every day, in this case between closeness and giving space, and discover the answers that work for us based on our needs, others’ needs, context, and situation. Yes, this makes life tough but also fascinating as we have to learn for ourselves how to live competently.??On a more practical level, one way to discover how often you should talk to each other is to communicate. I know that sounds odd but essentially, the most successful couples are the ones who work these things out together. So, ask yourselves what you both need in terms of support and space. Try to also explore how context and situation might change your needs. For example, if one of you is traveling for work or if one of you is having a tough time at work. And remember that all this will change as you get older and as you go through life’s events, such as having children and losing people. Whilst a good rule of thumb is to have a least a weekly a check-in, daily life requires a constant dance between you as individuals and you as a couple.