Is it normal to feel like you’re growing but your partner isn’t, or am I just being unfair?

Is it normal to feel like you’re growing but your partner isn’t, or am I just being unfair?

I felt this way for a long time and later realized I was measuring growth by my own standards. That part wasn’t fair to them.

Sometimes it really is a mismatch though. I ignored that feeling for too long and ended up regretting it.