Is it wise to continue being married to a narcissistic person?
Some might say that wisdom lies in doing and saying the right thing not just for people around you but also for yourself. Others might say that wisdom lies in accepting what we can’t control but taking action with what we can control. What that looks like depends on you and your context, which is where things can get tricky and confusing. The first question to ask yourself is perhaps how bad the narcissism is and what your spouse is doing about it. For example, have they been diagnosed officially and are they working with a professional? If yes, there is perhaps a willingness to change, which might give you hope.
If they haven’t been officially diagnosed, what are the behaviors that you feel are narcissistic? It is then important to talk to your spouse and check in with their reality. Remember that it’s good to not sound like you’re blaming them so stick to I-statements about what you observe. For example, when you shout, I feel scared so would you be willing to stop shouting? Depending on how they respond, you’ll also get a sense of their willingness to listen. If you then feel you truly aren’t getting any response or openness back, you might want to consider moving forwards either with some major changes and/or with professional help. Only you can decide but in the end, self-care is a priority as is feeling safe both physically and mentally.