What if my partner is always distant but starts giving me attention when I suggest ending things?
It’s possible that your partner is dealing with some personal stressors or is unsure about the relationship. They may be emotionally distant because they are struggling with something but are not ready to end the relationship. Their efforts to give attention when you mention ending things are to save the relationship. It’s best to sit down and discuss this problem openly.
Mention that you’ve noticed the pattern of them withdrawing but then giving attention when you talk about leaving. Tell them you’d like to get to the root of the problem.