Hi everyone — I’m new here and have been reading through a few threads before posting. There’s a lot of thoughtful advice in this community.
Something I’ve been thinking about lately (both personally and through the relationship psychology work I do) is how often we unintentionally sabotage closeness when we actually care deeply.
Sometimes it looks like:
• pulling away when things get serious
• picking fights over small things
• testing our partner instead of asking directly for reassurance
• shutting down instead of saying what we need
I’ve noticed that in many cases it isn’t about not loving someone — it’s about fear of vulnerability or past experiences creeping in.
I’m curious — have you ever caught yourself pushing someone away even though you didn’t want to lose them?
I recently wrote a deeper breakdown of romantic self-sabotage patterns and why they happen if anyone’s interested:
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Looking forward to learning from you all.